Long-Time Friends

Why long-time friends are the greatest:

 

They knew you when you wore cat-eye glasses – they honestly know how much better you look now  (and won’t be put off by a bad hair day, the “wrong” clothes, or a few pounds one way or the other).

 

You don’t have to go through a lot of introductory chatter since you already know each other’s history.  (And unlike recent information about new friends, you lived this.  It’s more deeply wired in your memory and easier to recall.)

 

You don’t have to prove yourselves to each other since you already did that a long time ago.

 

They literally know “where you’re coming from” because they remember your old house and old neighborhood.

 

They know that the teacher hated you in fifth grade – and they never thought it was your fault.

 

Since before Twitter was invented, you have been “following” each other’s relatives.  You know their parents and they know yours.  You remember their brothers and sisters as children.  (If you’re older, maybe you’ve known your friend’s adult children since they were children!)  This long-term knowledge becomes even more important when some of these people are no longer living and memories shared with others help keep them close.

 

You don’t have to explain what you were doing in college since they were there and did it too (or some of it!).

 

Even if you haven’t seen each other or talked in decades, you can pick right up where you left off.  If the channel was open before, it can be open again.

 

You see how hard they have worked at things and admire what they have accomplished.

 

The pure passage of time gives your friendship additional credibility and tenure.

 

You’ve developed ways of talking, joking, or just being with each other that let you think, laugh, and go deep all in the same conversation.

 

You see the essence of your friend more clearly over time and love them even more.

 

They knew you when you were a dorfwad and not half as cool as you are now, but you’ve liked each other all along!

 

 

What makes your long-time friends special to you?